Being your own chic mentor

I came across a Word document I wrote a while back and I was playing with the idea of being my own chic mentor.  I had tons of points written down about me as a chic mentor.  At the time some were true and some were not true… yet.

I wrote them as if observing someone chic and went from there.  You can also add in attributes you admire in others as a reference point for yourself.  Coming back to this list (more than three pages long of single-spaced typing) was so inspiring and I’d highly recommend it as a fun way to inspire yourself.

Here’s some of ‘me’:

• She dresses in a simple and neutral colour palette

• She looks after her possessions, cares for them and shows them respect

• She gathers furniture and clothing over time to create her own unique style

• She aims for style, not fashion.

• She is uniquely herself

• She is a successful author

• She is serene

• She has fun with her family

• She spends time on sexy eye makeup

• She is elegant and has a simple personal style

• She is light in spirit and fun to be around

• She adds feminine touches to her outfits

• She is very warm and nurturing at the same time as being sexy, good fun and also a good conversationalist

• She is intelligent but also doesn’t try to dominate the conversation or show you how much she knows

• She has a balanced life

• She is hardworking and professional, good at what she does and takes her work seriously

• She is down-to-earth

• She is well-mannered and quiet

• She has followed her dream to create her own clothing range

• She is slim and healthy looking, not stick thin

• She is glossy

• She has created her own life for herself

• She is basically the coolest female ever

It’s easy to get caught up in what we haven’t done well, the wrong foods we’ve eaten, the late nights we are having, etc.  But what about if we concentrated on everything we are doing right, and add in some ‘could be/maybe in the futures’ just to zing things up?

The mind does not know truth from fiction, and simply takes in what you feed it.  In addition, what you think is your reality is only your perception of what you think is reality.

I did a psychology paper, for fun… as you do, fifteen or so years ago.  One part I distinctly remember in the text book was that how you view something isn’t necessarily fact.  Your beliefs filter what you see, much like a pair of sunglasses.

It’s taken that a long time to sink in for me, and I forget it sometimes.  What I take from it though, is to be open to different ways of seeing things.  Don’t be rigid.  Soften the view.

Do you think you could be your own chic mentor?  What are a few bullet points that your dream chic list might say?

fiona

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